The Virgin Question

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People say “since sex has become easy to get, love became so hard to find.” I sincerely believe that is somewhat true because having to discern LOVE from LUST is as good as Doctorate.

Most first experiences don’t turn out good, because we already have an expectation of outcome of sex; thanks to movies, porn, magazines, internet and people’s attitude towards sex. Then that craving sets in.

You say to yourself “it’s just the first; the next should be pleasurable, thereby anticipating a next.The Virginity Hit And then we start enjoying it. (Hell yea it’s a wonderful experience) then you always want more, you feel ‘I need me some vitamin S’…. then you start understanding what it means to be satisfied.

Very few reach this satisfaction with their first partner, for some, they get there After 2 to 3 partners and then you tend to know the sizes of a man’s penis and positions that suites you….. THEN!!!… Satisfaction in bed is added to the so called “Mr. Right’s list”. There and then the problem begins. Even if he takes you on different dates,  shows you off, buys you gifts, plenty pleasant surprises,  basically treats you the way you want your Man  to treat you, you think of; ‘he isn’t good in bed….I can’t spend the rest of my life with a man that can’t satisfy my sexual desire….. Let me enjoy his goodness for a while and move on when there is a better person… I am so gonna cheat.’  And it destroys it all.

But as the saying goes; ‘The smaller the Penis, the more reasonable the man is.’ I don’t know how true that is… So I am here wondering; what if we were virgins and just have a man prove their love in treating you the right way and understanding each other’s character to be sure you compatible then you both head to the altar? Don’t you think there would be less heartbreak and disappointments, less immorality if we could stick to saying NO to PRE MARITAL SEX. More like back to the days of our parents. After all you just would have only your husband’s PENIS for the rest of your life.

So I ask us these questions:

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What’s your take on virginity?  Do you think being sexually chaste before marriage will help save us from heartache and marriage last longer like our parents believed it will or it doesn’t matter at all? Does a girl’s virginity make you as a guy appreciate a lady more? What do you think?

Below are what some of us had to say:

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                                         Obinna @MrCrux_M

It’s Twisted, i don’t like virgins. At this point in my life yhh…, it’s a wife i am looking for and a woman that has seen stuffs, tasted the dick and chose mine as her favorite. Not one that will taste mine and want to taste another, you dig?  I believe the cure to heartache is understanding. Virgin oooo, not virgin ooo, don’t matter. Girl fit spoil after marriage, so its not a determinant. So virginity wont give assurance for a long lasting/happy marriage. I respect a virgin any day any time, its not easy being chaste so you got to give them kudos but the truth is that deep inside, there is always this craving for sexual fun. I respect and appreciate them but i am cared of spending the rest of my life with them Dazall.

Tessy @immune70IMG_20131014_0017122tessy_edit_edit

I can still recall when i was a virgin. I had  my mind set to give it to the man i will eventually marry but sadly it didn’t turn out that way. Do i regret it? Yes, everyday. Forget what male folks makes us to believe that they don’t wanna get with a girl if she is a virgin. That’s just something they tell us to fool us into giving it to them. I gave it away but did the guy love me at the end? Did he get married to me? NO. And my next boyfriend, I was faithful but making love everyday didn’t make him stay. That’s why relationships don’t last. Lot of girls give it freely. Look at the days of our forefathers, they married when they were virgins and we didn’t hear of divorce or separation between them. But today the rate of divorce is so high. Since ladies are giving it freely, it makes a man cheat on his wife. But if we stay virgins till we get married then there will be less cases of adultery and broken homes.

 

Pastor goody goodyPasto goody goody @pastogoodygoody

Well for me it’s not anything close to what leads to long lasting marriage or anything a good woman. Whether virgin or not, I prefer a good woman with good character to a virgin. For me it has no criteria towards being a good house wife or does it change anything if you marry a virgin or not.

Ado%20Ekiti-20131011-02157isioma_edit_edit         Isioma @Isi_Jay

I think virginity is overrated. I believe if a guy really loves you, he won’t care if you are a virgin. The real fact is that some women who their husband met as virgin and yet they still treat them badly and still have as many girlfriends as possible outside. I think it doesn’t matter. Runs girls (aka ashewos) are even the ones that get the best husbands at the end of the day.

Kehinde @AkoHindeykehinde 1 

Sincerely i would say that being a virgin before getting married isn’t a good idea, though we have been made to believe that this is a good thing yet its down aspects can lead to cheating. Sex is gratifying and when a lady starts having it she seeks more and as a novice in it, heading into marriage, there is a tendency she might want to explore outside her matrimonial home. Having sex before marriage isn’t bad but having too much of it isn’t good. Now what is defined as too much? Well this depends on the certain individual and as such the quest for more is where it all goes down high when not being satisfied. The truth is we are different as humans and our thought process are different likewise. To some people there is nothing like too much. In conclusion, LADIES if you want to explore, do so but don’t go too far na… na somebody go marry you oooo…lolz and use a condom. Stay Safe.

    

IMG_20130923_00135213ishibakhomen_edit_editIsibhakhomen @eboghomen

From the biblical way, being a virgin before marriage is right because it helps you appreciate yourself and your spouse (if he is the right one). On a second thought, being a virgin doesn’t make you a saint you know, because you would want to test other men after marriage which can lead to cheating. So from my point of view, I don’t really think being a virgin is cool. Because you need to know who you are getting married to before you jump into it. What if the dude has a small dick??? TESTING IS ALLOWED.

Yinka%20meelsie_edit_edit1                                                                               Elsie  @ElsieMcSumfin

Being chaste before marriage is a good thing, very commendable I must add. The reason I am totally against sex before marriage is this… If I sleep with every guy I have dated, how many do I have to sleep with before it gets to my husband’s turn? I am in my early twenties & of course I have dated lots a guys, yes lots X_x. Yeah I know, I am not a whore & NO, I don’t sleep with them. I just get bored too easily & being that I am young, I haven’t quite ‘found’ myself yet, so I don’t know what I want in a man. I don’t even know what my criteria are for choosing a man, yet. Hope that is not a bad thing :]y Money or success doesn’t move me, cos I am not greedy & I am doing quite well for myself, thank God for that. I just look out for that connection, real friendship. Enough of the blabs about myself, back to the question…..I feel sex is to be cherished, with that one special person in whom you have found your friend, partner, confidant & all (I am a hopeless romantic sha #:-s ) & the feeling of being one’s only or first partner is really something *dreamy sigh* & NO! It doesn’t guarantee anything, it sooo doesn’t. It might strengthen the bond between the parties concerned but no, no guarantees….non at all. There are no guarantees in the game of love sef 3-| & life in general. Anyway, to conclude, sex is for married people but hey I am not judging, it’s not the day you both decide to go to the altar or have a ceremony that is the true wedding day, it’s the day you both decided that, yes, we are going to be together forever. After you have both committed to each other, there doesn’t have to be witnesses. Do you guys get? Plus, my principles are mine to live-by, not to impose on other people.

Akinbosola_edit_editAkinbosola @Aykaystyles

It’s good to be a virgin till marriage but it is not a prerequisite for being a good person or a good wife. Because she’s not a virgin does not make her less worthy and vice versa. To me, people attach too much significance to it. It’s the heart and attitude that matters, coupled with understanding.

 

Grillztunechi(20th%20July)jennifr_edit_edit_edit Jennifer @Grillztunechi

It doesn’t matter at all. U see ehn? Virginity is overrated in Nigeria. I thought God created the vagina to be disvirgined. There’s one thing I know, in recent times, if one is a virgin, everyone looks at them like someone who shouldn’t even exist or something, because some marriages have collapsed in recent times just because one of the partner is not sexually active. In most cases, it’s the woman that is usually the victim. Now looking at the question…. SEX SEX SEX …. Sex is just the ultimate thing in a relationship and without being disvirgined, there is just no way a man will continue going out with you till you both eventually get married.Having said all that, the whole chaste thing doesn’t really work out in Nigeria, like people are even scared to roll with virgins and stuffs. Being chaste doesn’t even help secure a relationship let alone marriage.

delehj_edit_edit      Bamidele @deltops

My personal opinion, being a virgin before marriage or after marriage doesn’t really count. I personally wouldn’t want to marry a virgin….the wahala of ‘disvirgining’..lol… + its messy. I feel trust is the keyword…if you marry someone who isn’t a virgin, and she’s trustworthy and understands you, both of you would be fine. I don’t really appreciate virgins. I appreciate a faithful girl who loves me whole heartedly and who is proud to flaunt me to the world.

KappyKaypi @datvideoboyy

Ok, here is what I know: being sexually chaste before marriage will not save your marriage or even save you from heart break. Everything that has to do with relationships, marriages and all are personal decision. Yes, we appreciate virgins a lot…like very very well, but it is not something I believe to make marriage last long or keep your heart safe. This is why I said ‘Personal decision’. Personally I have disvirgined two girls. Here is what happened: I loved one so much and the other was just meant to be ‘take away’. I didn’t believe she was a virgin before the act. After the act, she was actually telling the truth. Now, it didn’t make me love her and it wasn’t because I was in love with someone else. Although I respect her a lot and that’s all she can get.So being sexually chaste is for your own personal good as a lady. Maybe you don’t want to sleep around and all, but if you finally meet a guy, whom you think is Mr. Right and then marry him for whatever reasons. You being a virgin won’t stop him from having extra marital affairs. That’s why i said its all about “personal decision”. Here is what can save you… NOTHING but TRUE LOVE.

Ojembao                                          Ojemba @Eric_ojemba

For me, virginity is an act of sexual discipline until after marriage. Strictly for couples. And for the second question, it differs, you can’t compare the life of our parents to now. And I think being chaste before marriage helps because it last longer and make me appreciate my woman.

And I would say: if you are a virgin, KEEP IT. You are precious. Don’t let anyone make you feel less. Don’t feel burdened to lose it because your friends say you are not a big girl yet, you are naive or missing out. If you have to, be convinced in your heart that you should. A whole lot comes with losing your virginity, especially to Mr. Left and without proper knowledge of what you getting into. Have a mind of your own. STAY BEAUTIFUL!

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78 thoughts on “The Virgin Question

  1. It really good to wait tho pressure will surely come from guys buh at the end it always worth it.virginity is a thing of pride nt sometin to just dash out to just any guy cos of his empty promises,and lyk U̶̲̥̅̊ said in ur write up dia won’t be any nid to add dick size and sexual experience to one’s list of what Mr Right must have.

  2. As a lady Saving Up your virginity for marriage is the wrongest decision ever,The man who might not be a virgin expects a lot and trust me speaking from a guy’s point of view no man enjoys a boring sex and I bet it is the same for ladies too so as this articles says the day you get disflowered as the old english calls it you will never feel any satisfaction whatsoever and in that process many ladies get to hate their husbands and see him as a monster for taking away their virginity in a manner that is nothing pleasurable un knowing to them as first timers that it is never pleasurable so some wouldn’t want to try it again while others would want to seek outside advice and we all know what that could do to a marriage,I could go on and on but just to cut the whole thing short..virginity till marriage does more harm than good to the marriage.

  3. Nice blog post elsie! I dunno why wordpress no gree post my first comment…. Sometimes I wish I was still a virgin…. because in reality guys never really appreciate girls that give it all up to them….. They get tired of “toys” too quickly and always want a shiny new one that hasnt been touched by nobody….. Anyways… God help us all find who would complement us in the long run…

  4. Nice blog post elsie…. I personally miss being a virgin sometimes, because in reality a lot of guys do not really value girls who give it all up to them…. Like babies they tend to toss their old “toys” away and seek shiny new ones….. Anyways…. One can only hope to find one who would take one as they are….. Again… Nice post! The opinions though…. Very real…. and insightful

    • lol… I like your toy story dear… but the drum can be struck from both ends because it’s the mother of all drums “Iya-Ilu”. I’ve been on both ends of it…and I feel your pain, how i wish you can feel mine..

  5. Been a virgin is precious and I respect ladies who holds on till marriage. And as for those who lost theirs, its no crime. Different strokes for different folks. Overall, if you’re still a virgin and wants to wait till marriage before losing it.. I support you. If you’ve lost it, enjoy your sexual life.

  6. Well.

    People say all sorts of things concerning virginity. Their opinion.

    I’m sure we all know what our religious beliefs say. And what I’ll say is do whatever you do as long as you’re not under pressure by anyone, you’re fully aware what you’re doing and no matter what comes after that you’re comfortable with – go ahead and do it.

    After all, the consequences will be borne by you and ONLY YOU.

    Nice post, dear. Quite interesting.

  7. Well, being a virgin is amazing, and dignifying; its not an easy feat in this century. For however long any lady chooses to stay a virgin shouldn’t be anyone’s headache. Our society and various cultures support it – it should be promoted.
    No lady or man has any excuse to lose her/his virginity before marrriage. However, most people would yield to the yearnings of the body, social pressure etc.
    Sex is for marriage. I’m not a judge, I’m not just enough to be one; so, I’d say live and let live. Virgins should strive to stay that way till marriage, they would be glad they did – especially ladies. If you are not a virgin, keep yourself responsibly, and respect your body.

  8. Virginity no doubt is a trasurable attribute of a lady, but then, its no guarantee of things yet to come

  9. Am not saying this cause am still a V, bt the truth is sex takes something out of u! Its a soul tie, u have sex with d first guy somehow u tied to him especially wen u give it outta love, then d second, thrid and d list goes on, it gets to a point u don’t have anything to give anymore! It now becomes a duty cs uve heard it all, in all sizes and shapes, nothing excites u anymore, in some crazy situations u begin to imagine shit to come! Its just like hard drugs! U get high d first time, u crave to get dt feeling again, so u take more, and more! Virginity doesn’t guarantee faithfulness but it comes with some level of respect and trust, there are some shit ur hubby wudnt ask u! It all depends on d man u marry finally Oo˚˚°º‎​h! But last last if all girls stick to getting married virgins husbands wudnt cheat cs dey wudnt c who to cheat with, couples wud learn to understand the spouse and teach them in areas they default in! I believe no one came to this world a star in bed we all learnt d skills, teach her if she doesn’t do it d way u want it! Kai! Perverted generation! God have mercy!!!

  10. Lmao @ “the smaller d D d more reasonable” abeg d size doesn’t determine their “reasonability” at allllll…….well rili virginity or no virginity….being pure has nofin to do wit it….dere r virgins dat r worse dan sex addicts….it all begins 4rm d mind! Virginity is bn overrated by a lot of pple….dere r virgins dat don’t act or don’t show it nd dere r d 1z who hav nacked 10 guys nd stil claim to b virgins…..rili u wil nt get paid 4 been a virgin it jst makes u look more pure/holy which rili is d case of a “pitiful condition” virginity or sex doesn’t guarantee u a place in Heaven, most of wat we c in our society 2day r technical virgins….dey claim to b but rili dey r worse dan me….lol. Virginity doesn’t make u d best wife or most caring mother….it all comes down to ur attitude, ur beliefs nd ur morals…….mehn d pepper in dis ofada is confusin me wil post anoda comment wen I’m calm…..to all d virgins keep ur virginity safe or still……hav fun nd nack! 😀

  11. Guys can deny it all they want but every guy secretly wants a girl that can say no. If u let them have sex easily they begin to wonder if its that easy wit every other guy. the truth is every guy wants to score. That’s what makes them feel like “the man”. Ladies!!! SEX CANNOT KEEP A MAN! He’ll only stay if he has genuine interest in you. Abstinence is key! And if you are a virgin… Even better!!!

  12. My opinion..after table talks with my friends..90% of guys now wouldn’t wanna marry a virgin..no1 wants a log of wood in bed..that ‘keeping virginity era’s long gone’..tho not sayin ladies should start hopping beds gainin experiences like champions league matches..but at least be good in bed,be a great cook,step ur ladylike behavior up a notch,add a babalawo for special effects and then maybe just maybe you’d get to hav the ‘happy married life’ mirage..

  13. The most important truth is once virginity is broken, there is no further repair to it. There is no need to wince in pain and hate yourself and it isn’t also a criterium to promote promiscuity. So the best thing is if a babe aint a virgin no more, think thrice, do a random check cos no matter how bad a girl you might want to act, u will always feel hurt in the end.

  14. Virgin my ass , That thing is overrated… What’s the point getting married and you still gonna taste other dicks , why not test and know your choice before marriage…am not saying he/she should become a whore before marriage …but virginity is overRated …Virginity wil be the last thing on my mind in the process of searching for a wife material

  15. Mehn… This is really interesting but honestly, i dont know bout yall but I think I wud give a girl more respect if I marry her a virgin. A Real man shouldn’t be scared to marry a virgin cus experienced or not yall wud have great sex. All you have to do is teach her cus believe it or not she would be eager to learn. Or do you think she abstained cus she doesn’t like it ? As a man if you are a good lover, this shud be beans for ya. (All girls are freaks… The question is ‘are you man enough to bring it outta them ?’) Ladies… If you like the idea of keeping ur virginity then by all means please do. But if you know you want to fuck, fuck somebody worthwhile abeg and stop spreading anyhow like bedsheet on the wire. Jerrylee 🙂

  16. Being a Virgin is all about self control. For a lady to be a virgin at this day and age, it should be a thing of pride for her. At the same time it doesn’t mean she has all the attributes a man is looking for in a woman. So many guys go about saying how they can’t get married to virgins because she’s not skilled in bed etc.( Abeg no one came from heaven with skills in bed we all learnt it here.) They say experience is the best teacher If your woman is behaving like a log in bed get her to feel more comfortable and teach her how you want her to behave in bed. Same guys who want skilled girls for marriage are the ones who go about cursing and calling babes who can count the number of guys she’s slept with on both hands hoes. The best thing is to remain chaste cos if you wanna go by what men want you’ll ruin yourself and by the way the Bible doesn’t support sex before marriage it’s called fornication! Do the right thing and be wise. Be chaste and be holy. And as for those of us who have tasted it, self control and abstinence is key. You don’t have to bone every guy you meet all in the name of compatibility. Sex doesn’t and can’t determine the length of a relationship it doesn’t matter how many times you do it with him in a day If he wants to leave you he will. And Btw no guy likes a slacked *****. Sex is not enjoyed when the you’ve worn out the elasticity of your veejayjay. Remember to always condomise 😉 #oneMan’sOpinion.

  17. I would gladly marry a bitch, whore or hoe as they call it now because I don’t have to trust her, she’s had and seen enough already and for her to decide to be with me, then I must be something different.. I don’t have to worry about trusting her, all i need to do is keep that part of me that gave a reason to choose and stay alive..every woman want’s to be responsible and be seen as good… I’ve been on the street for too long to know that..

    I will gladly marry a virgin too because i am sure of one thing, for her to say yes to me, then I must have stood out in a great way and all i need to do is keep it exciting to distract her from the excitement that is rumoured to be outside. i don’t have to trust her, she’s proven her mettle and only needs to be respected and loved…If she’s a log in bed, then i become a monkey. If she’s shy, here is the place of wine in marriage… everybody warms up to new experiences, you don’t need plenty coaches to become a pro…one good coach is good enough, ask Serena and Venus, they only needed their father to conquer the world of female tennis so guys, quit the excuse of skills.. together you can consult kamasutra or whatever they call it.

    I am a control freak when it comes to my body, although i have weaknesses like the Achilles of this world, I can stand in the guild of virgins with pride even though i am not one. It took close to three decades to bow to the baal called skirt. Not because I was in dearth of women, or money or space to slaughter the lamb, but because i chose not to. Pressure is no excuse for those who couldn’t because I was in the midst of it but I can’t remember anyone putting a gun to my head, the best they did was spite and whoop my ass with words, even girls did. When I did, I did because I was sure I wanted to, I didn’t get pressure or groan for it, i asked and I was given.

    I am not on the lookout to get hooked to a virgin, neither am I shopping for experience, i will be with the woman that defines me and not based on her sexual CV. Virginity is dignifying, sex is fun but not as enjoyable as we all make it seem… Sex will not keep a man, in fact, it’s gonna turn a guy like me off if that’s the only card you have to play, it is affordable remember and nothing makes yours better than those for sale so quit the trap mode ideas. Staying chaste is not the joker as well, there is something sitting on your neck and the last time i checked it has more value than the hole or pole between your legs.

    Hell to the brothers that claims virginity is no longer in vogue, I hope you have sisters and I hope the brothers in their classes and in your hood find them in dark places… I hope that will make you smile.
    Hell to the sisters who forget the value on their neck but instead guard their thighs and learn nothing, becoming burden and liabilities, creating nuisance and having no values to bring to the table. Some day you will loose the grace and your man will be filled with rage because no man is satisfied with a lazy, lousy, valueless former virgin mrs.
    Hell to the sisters that forget that it is power than lies between their thighs and give it out for, BB, Tfare, Recharge card, Rosay, Hennessy, shoes, bags, cars, anything that money can buy, or just because it’s hitching and they needed it to be scratched, you are the ones bringing disgrace to the women race and your roads will always be rough if you don’t find value in you and stop trading power for peanuts
    Hell to the brothers whose pole as become a filling station, don’t be surprised when things go wrong and you don’t know how it happened… it’s called karma, you don’t have to build tall fences to protect your daughters, they will scale it and get whooped by your past.

    The fact is this, as long as we don’t see sex for what it is…(procreation and pleasure in marriage) or virginity for what it should be…(Preservation of self for the ultimate plan and purpose of creation) we will continue to have discussions like this. I am not a judge, neither am I commending the foolish virgins or condemning the sexually active we. Having sex before marriage does not remove your dignity, becoming a bitch or filling station does the job, preserving your body though dignifying does not make you a saint, you need oil for the night, else you miss the groom like your great ancestors in the bible.

    I am proud of who I am, many women has seen me naked, if you were around when i was a child, i was notorious for chasing leaves on erosion naked in the rain, ofcourse there were alot of women around, if you weren’t around then, then you must have missed your chance, only few will get the chance to see me naked.. I will post pictures of me without shirts on online soon so you can atleast have an idea of what you’ve missed.

    I am Babaolowo 😉

      • It is the truth my dear, not an epistle.The answers to this question we all know but choose to ignore…

        Calling me such a name in public space with my real identity on it is quite demeaning and i think you should rephrase, retract and apologize because you don’t know what you think you know. I put out my real identity because i have no hide to hide and you sure should respect my genuity and genuineness and not put me out in the wrong light on the plato of familiarity and joke.

        Thinks can only get better!

        • I think you know that was a joke. If you cant take one… Well…. I dunno what to say… My bad for getting “familiar” with you… I don’t see what the second epistle was for either…. PS: You can vex please…

  18. Brilliant question out here, but my own view about this is that thou virginity is good but situations surrounding the world has jeopardise usefulness of being virgin. So the most important thing is that love, when a Man sincerely love a lady he wont care about been virgin or not. His love for her will be the first in his mind while virginity will only be an added advantage, but if not it wont be an issue at all! So i will say if you can hold on till you get married well it wonderful but if you cant look out for a serious relationship give it to it, be of good character, show your real self as a person, never pretend, be truthful, faithful, stick to your selves with sincerity i think it will really help making the man don’t even border about you been a virgin or not even if is main aim is looking for one too marry all this in you will sweep him off is fit to take you as you HER….

  19. Good write up, you nailed it raw. Bold writer. I only know of few ladies in the world that would write on the topic most folks shy about.

    To remain Virgin is virtuous and possible but a pretty difficult job i must stress. The quest for adventure ( exciting or unusual experience; it may also be a bold, usually risky undertaking) make ladies and guys venture into an uncertain outcome.

    Why we have a lot of broken family is because marriages are no longer rooted on God’s foundation. How can someone who doesn’t fear God respect you as a partner, the end would be separation. If you do agree with me that it is God’s commandment for us to marry then why can’t we do it in his way.

    To err is human, at least when we err we know it is wrong. And when it is wrong we make amends. There is a problem when what is wrong seems right in our eyes, then the end might be deadly. The Bible says Sex is designed only for married couples so lets heed it. And if you have flouted what the Bible says there is still hope for you, stop your old way and start living a new life in Christ.

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  20. Sex isn’t bad but been a virgin before marriage is best to do. Check back if you’ve ever taken a womans virginity, you can always respect that woman on your face. You can forget d number of sex time but you can never forget a virgin’s pussy once fucked. So it is a personal issue. If you are a virgin, please try and keep it with one man you can trust. Sex is nothing but fun, so you can forget the fun and gain respect in your marriage.

  21. We must bear in mind that we can not compare NOW with THEN. Even in those days, we had females who were no longer virgins by the time they got married. but it was always a thing of shame for such women because of African cultural values. but then, values everywhere in the world changed with time, modernity and technology.
    Back then, almost everybody stayed with their parents or guardians at least until they got married, hotels were not where any young person/people could just go to for some form of pleasure and most females had secondary school education at best before one guy will come and scoop them away in marriage. and if we look back, they got married at younger ages both men and women. I don’t think we all can expect a 28 year old single girl who is still in the Uni cos of incessant Asuu strike to still remain a virgin in 2013, when a lady of her age back in 1950 would have been nursing her 4th or 5th child.
    And our bodies are designed in such a way that, when you are above 20, the hormones responsible for sexual yearnings will come to the fore, (it’s earlier for some people) but at this young age, you can suppress it baring social pressure, but at mid 20’s, it becomes more difficult. except if something is wrong with such a person.
    But all in all, if anyone chooses to remain a virgin, best of luck to them but being a virgin is not the same thing as being a good woman. the world has moved on from celebrating virginity, it celebrates a good woman.

  22. Virgin or not….promiscuity can be hereditary..no matter how much you try. It takes the grace of God. Put a pig on a gold platter,it will find its way to where it belongs. From biblical angle being sexually chaste is the way to go. But we forget that promiscuity, sexual diseases, and all sort of sex related vices did not exist,or perhaps were at the barest minimum. All i’m saying is, taste the food, be sure its palatable before you finally eat. In the other way round, if you do not have the intent to eat at all…do not taste (If you have sex before marriage, be sure its with the possibility, if not intent of getting married- I AM NOT REFERRING TO SEX WITH OLOSHO O..EHEN.)

  23. Hmm…. Well, I for one think keeping your virginity till marriage is cool, so also is loosing it before marriage to someone you will definitely get married to. To me, its funny to say/think being sexually chaste makes marriages last longer. I mean a lady who was deflowered before getting married (to someone else), can and will still enjoy the benefits of marriage. Its all about love, trust and commitment coming into play.

  24. Personally, I think losing your virginity before marriage is against the laws of God. Pre-marital sex shouldn’t be allowed at all.
    We have had our roots tarnished with the ways of the western world. If we had retained our African way of life…. the marriage institution will be better off, when expectations are low in regards to sexual performance, and the size of the penis.
    I advise that girls say No to pre-marital sex, and retain their virginity till their wedding night..

  25. According to the religious leaders and maybe the bible too, sexual relations are frowned upon until marriage, and even then, both parties must stay faithful to each other.. That has not been the case so far.. Most people care little or nothing about pre-marital sex.. One’s virginity should be sacred.. A thing of pride.. But society has changed the view on that. Nowadays, the few virgins left would lie and deny their status.. Why? Because society has led us to think that virgins are repugnant! I’m not a virgin.. No.. Like many others, I’s naïve and gave it up because I thought I’s in love.. That’s the same mistake most girls everywhere make.. But surprisingly, I’d rather be this, than be a naïve, gullible bride.. I’m not condoning pre-marital sex.. I’m just saying it’s pointless saying NO to pre-marital sex if you already gave away your virginity. That’s my opinion.. If you still have it intact, trust me, you’re better off saying NO! Although there are health concerns over staying a virgin for too long, but that’s talk for another day.. Nice one Elsie..

  26. Sex is important. We talk about it every time. Whether we’re pro-sex or not, it pops up all the time.
    Now when I meet a woman, her virginity doesn’t bother me. I don’t think its fair to judge someone with virginity. If I like you and you’re not a virgin, cool. I probably wouldn’t have liked you an better if you were. So it doesn’t matter to me.
    I do feel like I need to really really point out that a woman who isn’t a virgin will always have the infidelity “trait”. I also don’t agree that if you don’t give it to your boyfriend he’ll respect you more. If a guy wants sex, he wants sex. If u give it to him, he gets it. If you don’t give it to him, he doesn’t get it….and then he leaves…probably.
    Personality is the most important. Please believe me. Lol.

  27. Being in a Ɠ♡♡D relationship is Ɠ♡♡D….SEX is not Ɠ♡♡D cause it reduces love and trust .  am a proud virgin

  28. LOL. Ok, it doesnt matter whether you are a virgin before marriage or not. Not having something to compare ur partner to wouldnt stop you from looking for something to compare it to, its like you said.. You wanna see how others feel like. Thats how humans are weird, we are insatiable creatures. What keeps marriage lasting isn’t the virginity status before marriage.. Its the person’s character..both of em. If you truly love your partner, whether the suck in bed or not wouldnt be a part of the criteria(something that shouldnt even exists in the first place).
    Besides, in our world today…experience matters alot. If u don’t have it.. You might find it difficult holding things down.
    And Men who would respect a woman for keeping their virginity are shallow and clueless, imo. Her virginity is not an evidence of her character. There are different reasons why people still av their hymen in place, not all are noble.

  29. Losing your virginity at an early age, ladies, could lead to divorce later in life. Sounds a little out there, right? But a new study has linked women who lost their virginity at an early age to a higher risk of divorce in your first marriage. The study looked at more than 7,000 female respondents aged 14 to 44 to determine whether premarital sex influenced divorce. Timing and context are the key factors in this study; if a girl under the age of 14 lost her virginity and this outcome was “unwanted,” she was likely to have many sexual partners before marriage, risk potential unwanted pregnancy or contract sexually transmitted diseases. In addition, the researchers contend she will probably get divorced within the first five years of marriage as well.

  30. Mhen!!!! Staying a virgin till marriage is cool buh y regret what u can change? I sha must have sex with le hubby b4 o….I no dey for, ‘dem shoot bird,e mama fly’. Virginity is def overrated in these parts tho, that is why I’m still a virgin (•͡.̮ ~͡)

  31. Being a virgin doesn’t determine anything in a relationship or marriage in most cases, a girl with a good attitude over a virgin anyday, anytime… Nice 1 Elsie!!!

  32. Lotta brain-making contributions I must confess! Here is my side of d saga: being a virgin is as good as evry other virtue lik patience, honesty etc. Virginity is overrated, no thanks to our ‘black African’ colouration. Being chaste doesnt mak u a super wifey, it only means u have done well enuf to keep ur age-long seal. Gbam! It’s all on u 2 re-invent urself n exhibit d kinda attitude n character dat will mak ur relationship n marriage last 4eva. Do unto others wat u want dem 2do 2u is d golden rule. If u expect so much, be prepared n willing to giv so much. Tank God Naa Nii

  33. Me I know a virgin dat stole bb from her boyfriend and another that took it in d ass from 4 guys in the same house. Yes they r still both virgins o. :p :p Love,trust,happiness and understanding between two people is what is important. Love sum1 for who dey are, not what they’ve done or not done! Okbye!

  34. This is actaully d first time I’m hearing/seeing pple talk negatively abt virginity @d comments…..why would I want to sleep with someone outside marriage and why wld I want to cheat after marriage?? When I have never experienced it…dat’s just a lame excuse. I’m sure it’s those that sleep around b4 marriage that will cont to sleep arnd even after marriage.
    Though being a virgin doesn’t mean dat the marriage will last but atleast d guy will respect you FOREVER!!!

  35. hmmm! virgin with a wicked tongue, virgin wey rude, virgin wey de nag…….. abeg give me a well mannered gal who has been there and done that. and by the way, this virginity, is it dignity or lack of opportunity? go figure. @eyekaywizard.

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